FINALLY! DANIEL ADEMINOKAN REVEALS HOW HE FELL IN LOVE WITH STELLA DAMASUS

  Daniel Ademinokan and Stella Damasus

Nigerian actress turned presenter, Stella Damasus recently invited her fiance, Daniel Ademinokan who was once married to Nollywood actress, Doris Simeon as a guest on her radio show titled ‘Undiluted With Stella Damasus’ in the United States.

The outcome of the conversation between Daniel and Stella proved to be a bag of revelations as the award-winning director opened up on how he fell in love with Stella Damasus, infidelity, marriage, s*x and other ineresting issues.

Excerpts:

Stella: Are men as emotional as women?

Daniel: I believe that men are as emotional as women but they are trained to be Macho about it. Men have more control over their emotions than women. Men just don’t react to it the way women do. Women tend to be dramatic.

Stella: Do men like public display of affection?

Daniel: A man who is dating a woman and is proud of her like’s public display of affection (PDA). He wants people to know this is mine without appearing to be trying so hard, but not to the point where you make other people uncomfortable. It is not everyone your woman is talking to that she has something with. Some women can be so possessive that they become nags.

Stella: Does the woman have the right to feel the same way?

Daniel: Yes, everyone in that relationship has a right to feel that way. You don’t have to be rude to other people for people to see. You shouldn’t be ashamed to hold your spouse in public. Men like public display of affection but not to the point where you make other people uncomfortable. It is not everyone your woman is talking to that she has something with. Some women can be so possessive that they become nags.

Stella: Does the woman has the right to know her man’s password?

Daniel: If you are married why should you have a password? Every couple should have access to each other’s phones. I don’t think any man or woman should go snooping around their spouse phones. If there’s trust, why should you be snooping? Unless the person has given you a reason to. Sometimes there are innocent messages that people can interpret wrongly. People misinterpret stuff but there should be no issue of passwords.

Stella: There’s this popular thing men always say (Daniel, you know me better than anyone else so you know these questions aren’t from me). Men always say they need space, how you know when to give him space?

Daniel: Sometimes all these bottled up emotions have a way of erupting. A woman who knows her husband well can sense when he wants to talk. When a guy doesn’t want to discuss something with you at a point in time, don’t force it. When women want to talk, they really want to talk. You should know when he wants to speak. I always advice women, let the man have a life away from home.

Stella: What do you mean by ‘’a life away from home’’?

Daniel: Most women don’t want their men to have lives outside their homes. A lot of women do that but you need to give your man a space to become a boy again. If you don’t let him have a life, he will bottle all those emotions and he will erupt someday. If all he does is spend time at home, he will break down and won’t want to listen.

Stella: How come men go out to look for ‘wife material’ but when they go out there, they look for the s*xy seductress?

Daniel: A man who is looking for mother Theresa as a wife is probably a man who has plans from the start. If you want an all-in-one package, look for that. Marriage is like you having Direct TV, they give you different plans based on what you like.

Stella: So do all men have to cheat because they know not all women have what they need?

Daniel: Not all men plan to cheat. Based on your question, that is a man who has married a wife for the sole purpose.

Stella: Whenever I talk about s*x, it’s always about the married people. Do men like women to initiate s*x regularly?

Daniel: A lot of men I’ve spoken to do like the idea of women initiating s*x. When you are with your wife, you want to feel the love and know that she craves for you. S*x is a 2-way thing, the man gives, the women takes, the women gives, and the man takes. If a woman refuses to be adventurous and the guy becomes bored, he will look for it somewhere else. Men love s*x. There is nothing wrong with women being adventurous.

Daniel Ademinokan and Stella Damasus

Stella: Some men can’t phantom their thoughts of women being adventurous?

Daniel: Everything boils down to how the marriage started. I read something where they said couples should even schedule s*x. It may sound disgusting but they said it’s better than a s*xless life. Most of the best conversations happen after s*x. S*x is one of the quickest ways to make your man happy. Some years ago someone said his wife shouldn’t give him oral s*x and then use those lips to kiss his kids.

Stella: In few words, how do you think men want to be treated by women?

Daniel: Every woman should understand the man they are married to or dating is still a kid at heart. Most women fail to see that no man wants a woman to come and be the husband in the house. Most men play by the women’s rules and then when marriage comes, it changes to their rules. When you are coming into it, lay your cards on the table, save 10% for yourself and when you are in it, give 100%. There are rules that some men play by and once they get what they want, they are out. That’s why I can sit here with you today because I’ve been through it.

Stella: For a married woman or man, I do not subscribe to having a best friend of the opposite s*x. What’s your take on this?

Daniel: Before I got married I had many female friends. One of them I fell in love with because we were just so fond of ourselves but she didn’t feel the same way for me. From that experience I was smart enough to know that it may not be safe and sane to discuss issues that will stir up emotions. Usually best friends don’t set boundaries. I personally as a guy would not advise to have a best friend that is a female or vice versa. Stay safe, the bible says flee from all appearance of evil.

Stella: Is it possible that a man can be married and his wife is not his best friend?

Daniel: If your wife is not your best friend as a man, you have a problem. Try the best you can to make your wife your best friend. If you feel your wife doesn’t understand you, look for a guy, not a female, because emotions may stir up. I’m not saying you can’t have a female friend but there should be boundaries. Your character is like smoke, somehow it will find its way out. When there are issues, don’t wait for someone else to console your spouse. I will not condone my wife having a male as her best friend and I myself will not have a female best friend.

DANIEL: “WHY I AM CRAZY ABOUT STELLA & WANT HER IN MY LIFE FOREVER”

Last week was a special one for Daniel as he dedicated the program to the special people in his life. Talking about Stella, Daniel who dedicated ‘stay with me- K.O. kelvin Olushola of Pentatonic, said: ‘‘I am so excited to have dedicate this song to one person who has been a rock. Sometimes God just aligns things to happen at the right time. Stella Damasus – you are an amazing person and I appreciate you so much. The kind of mind you have, the way you think, it’s different and I’ll probably never meet anyone like you. People don’t know the truth about how we got together. I appreciate you so much and you are a very blessed person.

There is something special about you. I have always said to you that the enemy will not attack you if you aren’t special. You have been a source of encouragement to me. You have changed a lot of things in my life. The way we came together is even a mystery to us. The world may know a lot of crazy things about you but I know who you really are. Thank you for loving me for who I am. We cannot show the whole world everything but you and I have conquered so much in a short time. I would not have been able to achieve a lot of the things I have. If I wasn’t with the right person. You are an actress, singer, writer, teacher, philanthropist, is there anything you can’t do? I love you very much and am dedicating this song to you because I want you to stay with me forever.’’

DANIEL: ‘‘I NOW HAVE 3 KIDS BECAUSE OF MY RELATIONSHIP WITH STELLA”

“Everybody knows I have a son David and I love him very much. But for those who don’t know, I have 3 kids now because of who I am in a relationship with now. Every time I see these girls, it makes me so happy. You girls have grown so much and transformed since the day I met you. Isabel and Angelica, I love you very much, I am so blessed to have you in my life. Anyone who sees all of you together will not know you and David are from different mothers. Angelica, you are at, the top of your class all the time and Isabel, your voice is amazing, I can’t wait to produce your songs. I can’t wait for the world to see you, you are blessed, gifted and skilled.

Thank you, for all you girls have thought David. I love you all so much, you are all special and I am dedicating this to all of you, Isabel, Angelica and David. Your mum is blessed to have kids like you. The world doesn’t know how much she does for you, she loves you all and I love you too. I am blessed to have all of you as my kids.’’ Reacting to Daniel’s song for her, Stella said, ‘‘I just want to let Daniel know that I love him very much. He made me feel so special yesterday. Daniel, you are my muse and God is taking us somewhere special together forever.’’

Daniel Ademinokan and Stella Damasus

STELLA: ‘‘I LIKE QUALITY S*X, NOT THE DURATION

Daniel: one of the things most guys complain about is ‘when we first got married the s*x is good but it just diminished’. They (guys) keep asking, but why do women do that?

Stella: Whatever I say, I will tell you my personal opinion but what other women might feel. Women’s bodies are different from men’s. We have hormonal imbalance. Sometimes you just don’t want to think of anything in your body. As a woman gets older, her s*x drives diminishes. In the beginning, you are excited and really want to please the man every time. But as time goes on, other things come into play. You become a wife and a mother, but me, I say that I don’t believe it should be. You should always please or try to please your man. The man should also understand when she’s not into it, if you married a man who loves s*x and you knew in the beginning, then don’t complain.

Daniel: Are women looking at how long a guy can last in bed or is there something else they are looking for?

Stella: I believe in the pleasure not the duration. I believe in quality over how many hours. Normal s*x drives look for pleasure over the duration. The truth is if you are talking to me about 2, 3 hours and there are breaks between, I can understand that.